After the new feeling is gone

Sometimes i feel like i'm stuck in this cycle of heartbreak. Every time i meet someone terrific that i enter a relationship with, everything seems wonderful, for a while. Everything seems to be perfect, you both know what the other person is thinking at times, or you both say the same things at the same time, you know how it is. You would do anything for them, whether it's getting something down from a high shelf in the closet, or going down to the store to buy that shirt they really want. You just want to see their face light up because it makes you feel great. And they do the same things for you. But after a while, you don't see eye to eye on certain things, at first it's small things like the color of the curtains, or how they leave things out instead of picking up after theirself. Then it turns into being upset because they forgot something, or because they lost the remote right before your favorite show, stupid things. Where do we go wrong? We argue and hurt each others feelings, not because we want to, but because we are lashing out, why?

That great feeling that nothing can take away does exactly that, it begins to fade away. You feel bad about hurting your loved one, but then after you make up, somehow, you always end up getting back into a fight later over something silly. And the worst thing is, that most of the time, you can't even remember what started the fight! This is a much more common ailment of today's relationships than what most people realize. And, surprisingly, one of the most easy to fix, if we can just learn the secret.

Growing further apart

It seems to me, that after a while, you just don't want to be around your loved one as much sometimes, not because you don't love them, but because you simply don't want to get in a fight. It's like you fight so much, and then you just don't have the energy to do it anymore. So you basically start to grow apart, and stop being as involved with each other. I think this is where most people just give up, because most people don't make it when they reach this point, the point where neither person can listen to the other. But for the people that just can't let go, the ones who have something special that's meant to be, those are the ones who love the deepest. I have been in a couple relationships that went south, and i didn't want to split up, but the other person took the initiative. I think that sometimes, we need to look at ourselves more, in the other persons shoes, and see that maybe we could be doing things at times that are hurting the other person as well. But if neither person is willing to listen, or give in, then it's going to go up in flames.

Could things be the same again?

As a result of my negative experiences with holding together relationships, i began looking for help on the subject, and found some good information on it. It's helped me immensely, and i wish we all could go in to our experiences with the ones we come to love with a better strategy for a happy ending. If that were so, then there wouldn't be people like me, or the countless others who have experienced loss, and lack the all elusive knowledge of how to keep it from happening. If it's any solace for my ranting, i've included a helpful link to the information that helped me. Hopefully someone gets some benefit from it - here.