Growing further apart

It seems to me, that after a while, you just don't want to be around your loved one as much sometimes, not because you don't love them, but because you simply don't want to get in a fight. It's like you fight so much, and then you just don't have the energy to do it anymore. So you basically start to grow apart, and stop being as involved with each other. I think this is where most people just give up, because most people don't make it when they reach this point, the point where neither person can listen to the other. But for the people that just can't let go, the ones who have something special that's meant to be, those are the ones who love the deepest. I have been in a couple relationships that went south, and i didn't want to split up, but the other person took the initiative. I think that sometimes, we need to look at ourselves more, in the other persons shoes, and see that maybe we could be doing things at times that are hurting the other person as well. But if neither person is willing to listen, or give in, then it's going to go up in flames.